Saturday, November 17, 2012
I'm a planner. Always have, always will be. Til.I.die. God is so patient with me though. He allows me my lists and my dates and my plans and EXTENSIVE DETAILS RECORDED. Then, He gently shows me a better path.
You can imagine the PLANS I have for our baby girl Korey. We had 30 long months to make all these plans and decisions. Naturally, I critically examined every single parent I laid my eyes on during that time. I read as much as I possibly could on the subject of baby-having, baby-raising, and parent-making.
Once again, God just quietly chuckles, as He looks ahead at my future. The future HE has planned for me. Not the one I have planned. I will admit, though, I've never been disappointed. Even with the tough times I didn't PLAN ON....there was a wonderful reason. There always is. Even if we don't get to know the reason until we reach those 'pearly gates'.
So, I had these HUGE plans on EXACTLY how my labor and birthing process would go. Even though I constantly repeated to myself not to get attached to my birth plan, it happened anyways.
After 3 false labor episodes lasting DAYS, I hit 41 weeks and my Doc said that word that I previously considered truly evil: induction. I had read how awful Pitocin was, and how out of control inductions are, and how it's not good for the mother or the baby, and how they end up in C-sections much of the time, and, and, and.....
But I calmly told my Doc, "YES! PLEASE! I'm done being pregnant!"
Lord knows I tried to enjoy pregnancy and I constantly told myself how beautiful it was. I was seriously lying to myself. In the end, it wasn't beautiful. It kinda stunk, actually. Sick the first 19 weeks, energetic and wonderful for about 4 weeks after that, then one thing after another ganged up on me and my happiness.
The pelvic and tailbone pain was so bad that Scott had to lift me out of bed, and in and out of the truck (not easy with a fat, painful preggo). Can you say WADDLE? Yeah, it was bad. Then came the itchiness. Everywhere. I would wake up with my legs bleeding from the scratching I did in my sleep. I wont even start on the migraines and vomiting.
I know, I'm just whining. It could've been way worse. Everyone kept telling me that. But you want to know something? At that time, it was THE WORST for me. I know it seems self-centered, but I was miserable, and even telling myself that it could be worse never made me feel better. I wasn't even grateful for the mildness of my symptoms compared to other women who have suffered far worse. When you are near the end of your pregnancy, your hormones are making you CRAZY, and your emotions are the stretched to their breaking points, it doesn't matter if someone else has hurt more than you. You don't care about them at that point. It's all about you and that baby and getting it out, along with all the misery.
So we did. We induced. They wanted to start me slow, I said, 'Give me all you've got, let's get this baby out NOW.' And there went all my plans. I labored on my back the WHOLE TIME - stupid, stupid, stupid. I tried for so long to avoid the epidural, but gave in when the contractions were coming every minute. I've been told pitocin contractions are horrible...maybe if I go natural next time, it'll feel like a breeze.
From the start of the drip, it took 8 hours to bring my baby girl into this world - only 15 minutes of that was actual pushing. I tore just a little bit and required a few sutures. But all else was well. It was incredible. And I don't regret a single thing from that day.
This past week, my BIG PLANS have suffered another terrible blow. I vowed Korey wouldn't start solids until she was at least a year old. Enter: the other path.
Korey ate her first bite of baby oatmeal on November 13th - and let me tell you, SHE LOVED IT. Within two bites, she was opening her mouth and grabbing at the spoon. She was instantly a pro. Tonight, she tasted Pear, and loved that even more. So much for my 'wait until at least 6 months-or more' plan. You'd think would learn by now....
So life goes on. I still plan and list and document and record everything. I still freak out if Scott refuses to give me a yes or no answer (I can't plan on 'maybe'...or 'I don't know'). And God still treats me with gentle patience.
I can't remember a time when Korey wasn't here. I don't know what I did with all my waking moments before she came. She continues to amaze me every day with how quickly she learns and picks up things. I am learning so much from her, but mostly enduring patience. I'm so glad God chose me to be Korey's mom. ♥
Sorry about the photos. My blog got reformatted and I haven't fixed them yet....
Friday, September 7, 2012
My baby girl is 2 months old. My husband and I decided this milestone is the point at which we can stop saying her age in weeks. After 8 weeks, it just starts to sound silly. 13 weeks, 40 weeks, etc.
The next question is.....when do we stop counting in months? We are thinking once she hits one year. Oh the silly things we worry about now.
We both love being parents to this cheerful little person. She has brought so much joy (and entertainment, stress, laundry, etc) into our lives. She makes us feel old already.
I could go on and on all day and end up with a book about all the things Korey does, but I wont.
I'd like to tell you all about our practicing of elimination communication. If you're unfamiliar with EC, just google it. I've spoken a lot about it before, and have held high hopes about it working.
Here's the shortened version: EC is what people practice in all the other parts of the world, except in the US (and partially the UK), but they don't have a name for it, because it's a natural part of their lives. It doesn't require any studying or learning, because they were raised that way for thousands of years, and still raise the children that way.
These babies don't wear any type of diaper from birth. The caretakers simply 'know' when the baby has to 'go' and will give a 'cue' while holding them over a pot, or a hole, or just the ground for the deed. If the babies are being worn in a sling, and the caretaker senses that they have to go, the baby is simply held away from the body until they are done. It is very rare that these people are ever pooped or peed on. It's just the way things are done. And guess what? These babies are potty trained within weeks. No, they can't use the outhouse by themselves yet, but they quickly learn to signal the caretakers and to go on cue. No messes. No diapers.
And this is where we come in.....
The first two weeks, I concentrated solely on healing from labor, and taking care of our newborn. We both felt so awkward, especially when it came to diapering. Even now, after millions of diapers, we still mess up and pay dearly for the mistakes. We tried every brand of diaper, and, naturally, found that the most expensive ones fit the best and prevented blowouts. I since have begun using cloth diapers (after finally figuring out how they work....) and am in love with them. I have saved sooooo much money already, and Korey appreciates that she has no more diaper rash.
When I began to practice elimination communication, it was based on timing alone. I knew that Korey peed about every 30 minutes. Once I caught one pee, it was easy after that. I would take her to the toilet (the adult toilet), sit facing backwards, with her in my arms, and hover her over the bowl while holding her in a squatting-like position (a natural position that encourages pooping and peeing). I chose to cue her by saying "go peepee", and making a hissing sound (commonly used, like the sound of pee). Sometimes she would go right away, sometimes we sat for 5 minutes cueing before she would go, and sometimes she wouldn't go at all, and cry instead. We were still learning each other, so I stayed calm and stayed persistent.
There were days when I caught so many peepees in the toilet that I only used about 4 diapers throughout the day. Then there were days when I caught none.
When Korey was about 5 weeks of age, I became extremely discouraged after a long bout of missed peepees. My sister was visiting me at the time, and had just come back from a visit to East Aisa, where she witnessed first hand their method of potty training (EC). She quickly pointed out to me that those families live together and raise the babies together and have been doing so forever, so there are no 'missed peepees', and the babies train quicker.
So I rallied my spirits and continued trying to catch as many peepees as I could (poo is another story I will mention at the end of my post...).
When she was just over 6 weeks old, everything seemed to click, all in one day. She peed every single time I cued her, and we used just two diapers throughout the day. (When I say I only used two diapers, please understand that it's because the were still completely dry, thus I was able to keep putting them back on her.) This continued from that point on- and I was overjoyed. Now, I can sometimes just 'know' that she has to go. Mostly by her own cues....she wriggles in a certain way, or suddenly gets upset, or starts fussing while she sleeps. It's so amazing! I didn't even know I was reading her until I noticed her doing it when Scott was holding her. I said, "Oh, she has to pee." Sure enough, she peed when held over the toilet and cued.
Despite our progress, she is still just barely 2 months old, and I am still just barely a mom. I miss many peepees, and I don't even bother to try it while we're out and about. From what we've accomplished so far and seeing the bond I've developed through this experience, we're going to keep it up. I still have high hopes of Korey being potty trained under a year of age.
There is so much more to this process than I could ever tell you. If you are interested in knowing more, just read the many articles online about EC, or read 'Diaper Free: The Gentle Wisdom of Natural Infant Hygiene'. That book is where we got the majority of our information. I also would like my readers to know that Korey is never stressed out when being 'peed' over the toilet. She sits quietly and calmly for the most part. She is never ever punished for wet diapers (well, she's never punished at all....she is only 2 months after all....). The most important point that I would like to make to you is that it's true that babies have control over their bladders and bowels. They don't just 'leak', as many people think7. I have witnessed so many times when Korey hears my cue, takes a moment (or two) to concentrate, then physically 'pushes' to start the stream of urine. It still amazes every time she does it.
Anyhow, that's my story for now. Oh yes, the poo situation. I still can't detect when she's about to poop. I know when she's mid-poop most of the time, and I certainly know it when she's done. We've got time to work on that though. I'll leave you with these prime example photos. Have a blessed day!
This one is,
"I'm pushing really hard..."
"Woo that felt good!"
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Thursday, May 17, 2012
- Starting at the top, I've got my online business notebook.
- Things I scanned: deductible receipts
- My INBOX Notebook is my most important. That is the 'Default Notebook', as set by me. My scanner settings also reflect to send anything and everything that is scanned directly to this notebook. Evernote files it in here and syncs across the accounts automatically, even if it's not open or active on my laptop at the time. This way, I can scan something very quickly, and not have to file it until later, when I have time to sit down and do some very quick and simple 'drag-and-dropping'.
- My personal medical notebook is another 'stack' which holds all pertinent health info.
- Things I scanned: Paperwork showing major illness or diagnosis with a date, Out of pocket records, Eye exam Rx cards from every year, Dental workup sheets showing work done/needed with any visit, and any medication label that was included with a new medication (don't scan in the 'drug info', as this is something you can look up on the internet from anywhere or even call your local walgreens and they will tell you what it is - even if you didn't get it.) (Yes, we're paperless now, but you don't need to be digging through pages of side effects while trying to find the date of the Rx).
- Things I THREW AWAY: Receipts from medical offices that weren't deductible, paperwork regarding minor illnesses (like cold and flu), minor medications, and anything that a future doctor wouldn't care to see.
- The next stack of notebooks is my Paperless File System, which is what I originally started with. My medical records and vehicle records were included in this stack, but one I realized these subject had their own 'tree' of documents, and Evernote doesn't do 'stacks-within-stacks', I pulled them separate.
- I have scanned in only pertinent tax information into each year (items and paper that I think would be needed if I were audited). For the most part, our taxes are VERY EASY, we do them ourselves online (Taxslayer also keeps copies of my forms on their site), and my notebooks are very small.
- Things I scanned: W2s, the completed 1040 tax filing forms, and year end statements that might be necessary in an audit. Nothing more.
- Things I THREW AWAY: All paycheck stubs (once the W2 arrives and is correct, these are unnecessary), all bank and credit card statements (if these are important to your business or deducted for some reason, the financial institutions will have available a year end summary which includes everything for the year - this is recommended vs the monthly ones)
- The Pets Notebook
- Things I scanned: All vaccination records, Spay and Rabies Certificates, and major illness paperwork,
- Things I THREW AWAY: Heath certificates with expiration dates, minor illness or routine checkup papers, purchase/adoption paperwork (all my animals are rescues and non are papered, so I had no reason to save any purchase info), EXPIRED rabies certificates
- Receipts: VERY IMPORTANT - because most receipts will fade over time. I keep copies of receipts for value and date of bigger items that we buy. Mostly for our renter's insurance.
- Finally, at the bottom, I have the Vehicles notebook stack:
- Things I scanned: All parts and maintenance receipts, routine and emergency, certificates for our aftermarket parts, and pdf how-to's.
Wednesday, April 11, 2012
Here’s some quick details: I’ve been very good at maintaining our filing system over our almost-8 years of marriage. We have two filing drawers full with every important piece of paper that has entered our lives (excepting the few HUGELY IMPORTANT papers that live in our tiny fireproof safe). I also have been diligent about purging the files once a year, as soon as we receive our W2’s. All tax related paper from the past year goes into one single folder, taxes are filed, and the folder is placed in the bottom drawer. All other papers go into the trash or shredder. This process will GREATLY aid in the speed at which I will reach my goal.
This is a screen capture of my Evernote all set up so far:
My first NOTEBOOK was Paperless File System - which I modified to be a 'Stack' of notebooks (To learn anything I've mentioned, just Google it). Then, the first notebook in this stack was 'Safe Contents *PRIVATE*' (which, when setting up, I chose 'local' folder -it does not sync with other devices or store to the cloud - still debating on how I want to handle this stuff).
Today, I am going to create another notebook (NOT A NEW NOTE - Notes go INTO NOTEBOOKS) within my file system stack. I'll show you with a series of screenshots:
This, I believe at this time, is the most important step for me - Every word in the title you give your notes or notebooks will be cataloged for later searching - which will be a big time saver when you've got over a hundred notes.
Once that's done, click TOOLS, IMPORT FOLDERS, ADD. (You can see I have previously set up in my EVERNOTE OPTIONS to have my main Evernote folder in my Public Folder.) Click your main folder (mine is EVERNOTE), click MAKE NEW FOLDER, name same as your Notebook name. OK
Now I start scanning. I wont bother to show you this process - as no two printers or scanning software are exactly alike. 2 only important factors when scanning: Scan into your computer as "PDF Document", and make sure you save it into that folder up there that you just created (or whichever folder you are working on at the time). (As far as Evernote is concerned, all documents will go into the currently set 'default notebook' - which you can change as needed). If you have a few extra minutes, I highly recommend naming it appropriately at the time you scan it.
Every time you scan a document correctly into that folder you set up to automatically import, Evernote will pop up with a notification on your computer's taskbar that a document was synced.
*You see I have a notebook called INBOX? My scanner is set up to automatically send all scanned items to that folder and Notebook- just in case I'm in a hurry and don't feel like categorizing at the time. These will automatically sync to my Evernote, which I will use to file into appropriate notebooks later. **When I initially set up the INBOX Notebook, I checked that box that says 'Make default notebook'.
There is so much more to Evernote, and paperless filing - and you can really get into it if you have the time and money. There is Premium Evernote, which will give you lots more space and better encryption. There are also a number of scanners on the market now that actually have a button on them that scans DIRECTLY to Evernote, without you opening a single program or window on your computer. They are pricey - so I make due with what I have.
- Utilize Excel Spreadsheets, Microsoft Money, Mint.com, or Quicken as your check register.
- For ongoing lists that you may need to update, reorder or keep indefinitely – use Excel spreadsheets or some type of word processer to create the list.
- Don’t print favorite emails – just place them into a ‘Saved Stuff’ folder on your email account, and it will be saved for later – also accessible from anywhere.
- File taxes online.
- Stop buying paper books – invest in Electronic Books. Kindle is the most popular right now – and you don’t have to buy a reading device unless you want to. The Kindle E-Reader is free to download to any computer, smart phone or tablet. And – it’s another ‘cloud-based’ system. Access any book from any device from any location. Could it be any better?
- Store favorite recipes, ideas, pictures and documents online. I use Allrecipes.com, Pinterest.com, Dropbox.com and Google (documents, gmail, etc), and am in the process of choosing a photo site. All are free to join, and can be accessed from any internet connection, on most devices.
Monday, February 27, 2012
I am writing today to tell you a little bit about Twitter. You can learn about them by visiting their page, and/or - of course - Googling them and reading their history. I'm going to tell you why I use it, and what value it holds in my life.
There are many different types of 'dashboards' or external programs to access Twitter without using their website. The most common and popular being HootSuite, BufferApp and TweetDeck. There are hundreds more (Google 'Twitter programs'), but these should get you started. Most of these sites offer multiple network access (ie: check out feeds from Facebook, Myspace, Twitter, and LinkedIn all at once), multiple network posting with one click, business-oriented themes and options and even more if you pay for the app. Some of these open in your browser, and some will become their own window on your desktop for easy viewing at all times.
|Twitter's official Android App on top. TweetCaster's App on the bottom.|
Now, I can't speak for iPhones, Blackberries, or Windows Phones, because I don't have one - purposely (I can give you my reasons another time if you wish to debate on which phone would be best).
Let me tell you a little bit about the folks I follow. I currently follow 27 people - and only 6 of them are people I know personally. The majority are big names in the world (well....my world anyways).
My financial counseling via Twitter is one and only: Dave Ramsey and his radio show The Dave Ramsey Show. He says awesome stuff all day long - and isn't afraid to reply to the haters.